Red Hat Society

Why the Red and Purple?

British poet and children’s author Jenny Joseph penned the poem “Warning,” the inspiration for the Red Hat Society, in 1961.

The poem starts, “When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple, with a red hat that doesn’t go.” It’s basically warning the reader that if you expect an "old" woman to act a certain way, think again. There’s too much fun to be had to worry about such nonsense.

Read the full poem here.

Society founder Sue Ellen Cooper, known as "Exalted Queen Mother," gifted a friend a copy of this poem and a red hat. Decked out in her own red hat found at a thrift shop, Cooper and her friend started going out for tea. Two became four, four became eight, until within a short time, nearly 20 friends were flashing southern California the full red and purple. That group splintered off into another, and as the women attracted media attention, the word of this frivolous “dis-organization” spread.

Red Hatters believe that “daughters of society” may indeed grow up, but they are never too old to enjoy playing dress-up and attending tea parties. The deeper mission is to alter the way women over 50 are viewed by society and by each other.

Joining the Red Hat Society

The “Rules”

The cardinal “rules” (their quotes) of the Red Hat Society are limited to three:

• If you are 50 or older, your function attire is a red hat and a purple outfit.
• If you are under 50, you’re allowed into the organization as a “Pink Hatter,” so designated by your pink hat and lavender outfit.
• Have as much fun as possible.

The society decrees that no one can wear red and purple until her 50th birthday.

These “rules” were created to encourage women not to dread turning 50, but to instead trumpet its arrival. The “Pink Hatter” inclusion encourages Red Hat Society members of any generation to partake in the fun. Mothers, daughters, aunts, and even grandmothers within the same family are a part of the organization.

Fees and Activities

Fees

There is a $25 society joining fee, which includes a welcome kit and of course, a red hat. The hat is a simple ball cap to wear to functions until you decide on what type of red hat best radiates your personality.

Individual chapter queens may also set a nominal fee to belong to a chapter to aid administration and activity coordination, but that option varies by chapter. Usually 20 or fewer women make up a chapter, and the group meets monthly.

Activities

Chapter members decide what they want to do. It may be something as simple as getting together for coffee every Wednesday, helping fill boxes at a food bank, or going out to the opera in full regalia. This author once experienced the wonder of more than 150 Red Hat Society members filling a movie theater for a showing of Calendar Girls.

The most important thing about choosing activities is that each member contributes to the fun and social networking of the group. Chapters are also encouraged to show off and send pictures of members out and about to the official website to be featured on the “Women at Play” page.

Find a chapter near you. And if there’s not enough red and purple joy in your area, don’t despair, just become queen of your own chapter.

Titles

Members are encouraged to give themselves titles. The goofier, the better. Individual chapter leaders can be “Queen” or “Queen Mother.” Other members’ titles run the gamut. “Vice-Mother, The Mother of All Vices” for the chapter leader’s assistant; “Mistress of Anxiety, The Patron Chapter Worrier”; “Lady Bakes-A-Lot”; and “Dame I Don’t Give A Damn” are just a few of the monikers that stress the tongue-in-cheek point of the exercise.

A Few Society Tidbits

• The Red Hat Society is not a nonprofit organization, nor is the society as a whole affiliated with any charities.
• It is classified as a social club, and thus frowns upon members or queens using it to promote products or services.
• “Hatquarters,” the official organizational arm, coordinates a variety of fun events and trips members can enjoy.
• Red Hatters can also get the “Purple Perk” card for deals on shopping, travel, and other merchandise by select retailers.
• The society has a number of books available. There’s a Red Hat Society Cookbook and a new release, Chicken Soup for the Red Hat Society, among others.
• There is also a limited engagement musical, “Hats!” debuting in 2007 in select North American cities.

Conclusion

Red Hat Society members:

• March in parades
• Go to plays
• Work on hobbies with each other
• See concerts
• Visit museums
• Exercise together (hats and all)
• Host luncheons
• Go antiquing
• Volunteer for special causes
• Travel together
• Participate in a multitude of other things that tickle their fancy

No matter what the activity, Red Hatters seek to find the joy and wonder in the world around us, all while looking fabulously glamorous, of course.

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